Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Rains Came Down and the Floods Came Up...

April has been pretty uneventful for us. Nevertheless, come 8pm I am sprawled on the couch just totally exhausted. I have to sit up if I intend to have a conversation or watch a show. It's all over if I lay down. The kids have always exhausted me but for some reason I am feeling it now more than ever. Maybe it's because I'm going on five years of being home with them everyday. I'm excited for them to attend preschool this fall not only for me but for them to have a place to go learn and make friends.

Anyway, our weekends have been spent doing yard work and house touch ups. We've been wanting to restain our fence but it seriously has rained and rained and rained this month. There haven't been three consecutive dry days for us to complete the project. To make it all worse, Clark power washed the fence to get the old stain off so the boards have been exposed to all the moisture and are warping. In our six years of living here, it has never rained this much in the spring. Rivers are over flowing and lakes are full.

Because of all the rain, the grass gets long really fast so we are mowing every weekend. I typically mow the backyard while Clark trims the front and then I deliver the mower to him and he finishes. This last weekend, however, we were low on gas and I did NOT want to go get more so he said we could get the whole lawn done if I did it fast. So I started the engine and ran my little tail through the whole backyard! Let me tell you, IT WAS HARD! Burning lungs, nausea, legs about to collapse, etc... I think of myself as a pretty fit person since I ride our spin bike several times a week but holy cow, I felt pathetic trying to run while pushing the lawn mower. I probably looked pathetic too. So I finished the back and did the side yard and just went right on to the front. I was NEARLY done when the mower died. Darn! So close. Clark ran to the gas station and he finished the small patch of grass. Oh the adventures of lawn mowing.

This month for Alphabet Preschool we did W, X, Y, and Z. We are officially done! We cheated on 'X' week a little though and opted to go to an indoor trampoline park for some eXercise! It was pretty eXciting! It's been fun to do this every week with our friend and perfect for the kids this year. I think we'll do a review next week and have an end-of-the-year party after that. Why not right?




The only pictures I took this month seem to just focus on Zachary so I guess he's the subject of the rest of this post!

One day he and Leah were playing in her room and they called me in there to take a picture.  I think they were proud of the story they'd come up with about princesses and pirates playing together.  Zachary has ALWAYS been great to sit with Leah and incorporate her ponies and princesses.  He gets into the storylines, participates in tea parties, and really gets in Leah's world.  When they get into their groove together, they usually can play for quite a while without fighting.  It's awesome.  Of course the next day he bans all princesses from his ship and Leah is devastated.  Ha!  Four-year-olds can be quite fickle.


In preparation for selling our house, we decided to put the bunk beds together.  The boys were ecstatic and couldn't wait to have their first 'sleepover.'  With the exception of a couple nights, I'd say it's been a big FAIL.  I really have no patience when it comes to bedtime so having to deal with their hyper shenanigans was frustrating.  I was having to go in there every five minutes and start threatening.  Eventually they'd fall asleep (like all kids do who share a room) but it would just put me into a foul mood.  Midnight bathrooms trips inevitably turned into them talking and turning lights on.  Once we solved that problem, they would start waking up super early and fetching around.  Caleb is an early riser anyway so it was really throwing Zachary off.  It's been about a month and I finally threw in the towel.  Caleb is now on a mattress on the floor in the playroom.  When we show our house, we'll hide the mattress away and make his bed up.   Zachary has been super proud to be on the top bunk so he has stayed up there and our nights have been quiet ever since. 


Our friend in the ward gave us around 24 Friend magazines that we have thoroughly enjoyed. We've read through all of them and I've just recently given them to the kids to color in, complete the activity pages, and cut pictures out.  EVERYDAY during quiet time Zachary takes all the magazines, cuts out pictures and makes collages.  He is incredibly proud of his work and I'm starting to think it might be therapeutic and calming for him.  He's the only one who does it.  He loves to find pictures of Jesus and Joseph Smith and is particularly proud when he finds a big temple picture or CTR picture.  He recently found a picture of a boy with a CTR ring and requested that I take a picture of him with his CTR ring.  He's awesome.  I also took a picture of all the collages he's been working on these past couple weeks. 





Zachary can be difficult to handle when he feels he's been treated unfairly.  Like I've said before, four-year-olds are all about equality.  Him in particular.  So when he senses any sort of inequality, he questions it and usually turns it into a big ordeal.  On the flip side, however, if he is receiving any special treatment, he is the HAPPIEST, kindest, most helpful boy ever.  Luckily I can use that to my advantage right now with things like making him think that pulling wet laundry out of the washer is special treatment.  Only HE gets to do it.  So he does it and does it happily.  I just think it's hilarious and he stays busy for ten minutes or so!


He really is a sweet, funny, quirky boy.  He's always thinking, analyzing, and asking thought provoking questions.  Like "If the Holy Ghost can be with all of us, are there a lot of Holy Ghosts?"  And just when I think he never listens during scripture time, he prays at night and says, "Please help me to prepare for baptism," or "please help me not to do things that Satan wants me to do."  Seriously.....so sweet.  He certainly has his extremes and challenges me daily but I can't imagine life without him.

I'll end with this gem from Leah.  A couple weeks ago we babysat a couple little boys for my visiting teachee.  Once she came and picked up her boys, Leah quietly said to me, "Is that Mama going to have another baby?"

I said, "I don't know, why?"

And she said, "because she doesn't have any girls.  Every family needs a girl!"

So true, so true.

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Journal Entries...

In all our cleaning up and cleaning out, I found papers with some entries I had made several years ago.  This was a particularly challenging time with the kids (they had just turned two) and I was realllllllllllllly struggling with the day to day stuff.  Clark would come home from work and all I could do was complain and whine.  I think he got tired of it because he started asking me to tell him one GOOD/FUNNY thing that happened during the day.  His questioning happened to coincide with a book I was reading (The Happiness Project) which suggested journal keeping of the happy things of the day.

I started, with minimal success or consistency, to write down ONE happy thing that happened in the day.  Although I didn't write everyday, this exercise certainly helped me be more aware of the positive parts of my day instead of ALWAYS dwelling on the negative.



10/11/12

Initially I was bugged when Clark brought all the kids in the bedroom this morning since it was my turn to sleep in.  But as we all laid there, Zachary on my right arm, I tried to cherish the quiet and peaceful moment Zachary was having because those moments don't happen often.  He sucked his thumb and cuddled right up to me.  Such a sweetie.

10/16/12

For the past month, Leah has been doing everything possible to avoid getting put to bed first.  The reason was she wanted to be rocked.  The first couple nights were fun, then she started protesting/crying each night when I put her in her crib.  After a stern talk, 30 minute cry, and several nights later, she now requests the following while being rocked.  She says, "Come Little Leaf, You Are My Sunshine, Baa Baa Black Sheep, then go nigh nigh."  So cute and no tears!

10/18/12

I went into the closet to lay with Caleb for a few minutes while he was waking up from his nap.  We had this conversation:

Me:  You want me to tickle you legs?
C:  Ya...tickle button
Me:  Ok
C:  Tickle head
Me:  Ok
C:  Tickle arm
Me:  Ok
C:  No this arm
Me:  Oh ok, my mistake
C:  Put in mouth (pushing his blanket toward my mouth).

I thought that was a pretty big gesture that he was letting me suck on his blanket.  He must trust me!  Later that day he said, "Mom is so fun!"  Finally someone is getting it!

10/24/12

Today the kids and I were playing with pennies and putting them in plastic pumpkins.  We were counting them and having a good time.  Leah, however, kept pushing her pumpkin in my face and getting in the boys' way.  So I pulled her off of me and told her she was being super-duper obnoxious!  Then I started tickling her.  After I turned away, she came right up in my lap again and said, "super-duper again!"  That girl loves to be tickled, no matter how she gets it!

10/25/12

Today Leah, Zachary, and I went into the closet to wake Caleb up from a nap.  We were all sitting there and I realized each child was chattering away about something different.  Caleb was talking about when we fed the goats at the pumpkin patch, Leah was talking about how we need to be quiet in the backyard because the neighbor's dog barks, and Zachary was talking about how Caleb was sick and I gave Caleb medicine.  Their minds never stop!

11/6/12

Leah has a GREAT memory.  I can read a book to her once and the second time through she can tell me what happens on the next page.  I read her an ABC book that had an animal for each letter.  The next day she read it and I was so proud as she was getting all the letters correct!  "A is for ant, B is for bird, C is for cat, D is for duck, E is for elephant, F is for fish, G is for goat, H is for monkey..."  So cute.  We laughed together and kept going.

11/8/12

As soon as the kids woke up from napping, I packed a picnic lunch, grabbed a blanket, and we headed to the park to break up the lunch monotony.  They ate their food and played on the playground.  Then I encouraged them all to get on the tire swing.  This was only their second time ever on a tire swing.  They loved it!  After ten minutes I decided to join them.  We swung in circles, laughed and got dizzy.  These moments are rare when everyone is smiling and enjoying the activity peacefully.  After five minutes of that, I was nauseated so I had to get off.  I'm getting too old for those things!

11/9/12

This is the first year we've done Christmas music with the trio.  They love bells and as a result, they love the song 'Jingle Bell Rock!'  I have to play it over and over both in the house and car.  They DEMAND it.

11/12/12

Today I got angry at the boys because they wouldn't leave the Christmas tree ornaments alone.  I got down on my knees and sternly said, "NO!" a few times so they would understand.  While I was angrily explaining why, Zachary softly put both his hands on my cheeks and quietly said, "hi mama."

11/14/12

Today Caleb wanted to say a prayer during breakfast so we folded our arms and he said, "Father...day...Diesel (train toy)...Henry (train toy)...Gordon (train toy)...Brooklyn (ward friend)...Baby Avery (ward friend)...park...leaves...grass...Jesus...amen."  Hopefully he'll work in some family member names next time!

12/2/12

During Sacrament meeting today, Zachary's shoes, which have a big sole on them, made a farting noise against the wooden bench in front of us.  Afterwards he immediately yelled, "Daddy tooted!"  People around us laughed but Clark's face was so red because he didn't want them to think he actually had done so! Then in Sunday school, Leah was brought to us by a nursery worker because her diaper needed changing.  She ran to us and yelled, "poopy pants!"  Looks like we need to teach our kids Sunday voices.

12/8/12

Tonight we all got in the car to go look at Christmas lights.  The kids saw Santa's reindeer, nativities, etc...  and loved it.  There was one house that had a musical light display so we parked and watched it.  Caleb and Leah were totally into it (Leah was dancing) but Zachary was not even watching.  He was sitting on my lap in the driver's seat holding on to the steering wheel while pretending he was driving.  He was laughing hysterically and rocking back and forth.  I couldn't help but laugh at his pure joy and delight in such a simple thing.  A few days later I was helping him take a shower.  He was holding onto the shower head pretending it was a phone then laughing hysterically when the water would his ear...over and over and over. 

1/1/13

Over the holiday we took the kids to an indoor trampoline park.  There was an area for kids seven and under that had three awesome bounce houses and a trampoline area with three long tramps.  This was the first time the trio had been on a tramp and they loved it!  They laughed, smiled, waved, ran all over, and had the time of their lives.  Truly a 'kid' moment.  One where they are exuding pure joy and happiness and you can't help but smile while watching.  Clark and I smiled and laughed the whole time we were there.

1/2/13

Today I was playing kitchen with Leah and she was pretending to peel me a banana so I could have a bite. I opened my mouth and she said, "Don't eat it Mama, it's just pretend!"

1/9/13

Leah put a fake strawberry and fake pickle over her eyes and said, "I look like Santa Clause!"  Then of course Zachary did the same thing but claimed he looked like Frosty.

2/25/13

Caleb put a string around his waist and a a string around his neck then claimed he was wearing a belt and tie just like Daddy.  Then he said he was going to work to 'buy money.'  Then he headed straight for the pantry full of food.  He has a pretty skewed perception of what Daddy does for a living.

FUNNY WORDS (wish I had written down more of these):

Maggot=magnet
Booberang=boomerang
Pomegrandma=pomegranates
Yoyos=onions


These are some of my notes from The Happiness Project book that I want to hang onto and remember.  I only made it through half the book because there were SO many suggestions it was overwhelming.  I felt satisfied with the information I received so I took it back to the library.  :)

-Four stages of happiness from an experience...anticipate it, savor it as it unfolds, express happiness during, and recall a happy memory.
-Enjoy silliness and TRY to be spontaneous
-You don't have to be efficient ALL of the time
-Tell yourself you have energy
-Smile more even if you don't feel like it
-If something can be done in less than a minute, do it
-Touch things only once
-Spare you husband minor details
-Collect things
-If you are going to be overly sensitive, be consistent
-Do things because you want to, not for appreciation
-Hug for at least six seconds
-Sing in the morning
       "Oh What a Beautiful Morning"
       "Good Morning Merry Sunshine"
-Don't assert feelings onto your children
-You can't choose what you 'like' to do, don't feel guilty for not doing what everyone else is doing